If you are anything like me, you can barely tie your hair in a decent ponytail, and french braiding was quickly out of the question before it could ever be a consideration. You scrunch your hair when you get out of the shower and call it intentional bedhead chic. When you attempt to curl or straighten your hair, it takes approximately five minutes for it to limp back to its OG, not-so-flattering-but-au-naturale shape.
Oh and if you can relate to me on a deeper level, you’ll sympathize on this: your hair does not grow. Not even a half-inch. Nothing. It’s as if your mane is on strike. It refuses to do its one job, and a few years ago you decided to chop it off, wishfully thinking, oh it’s just hair… it’ll grow back! HA, that’s cute. Meanwhile a few years later, your hair just chills at the same length it has been for a longer amount of time than anything and anyone you have ever committed to. Frustration is an understatement.
Then you flip the pages of your magazine, or you cross the street and see those girls with mermaid hair. How did they do it? They must be unicorns. Their long locks would make even Rapunzel green with envy. You want that Pantene commercial hair but your tresses refuse. So, what now?
That’s when hair extensions come along.
Thanks to Eye For Design hair extensions, the one thing I never thought I would have the money, time, or abilities for is now something within my reach. Their extensions are 100% remy, that means faking it til you’re making it never looked so foolproof and authentic.
I became that long-lost Kardashian mermaid sister in no more than 10-15 minutes. Let me tell you just how easy the application is and why you should own it.
Step One: Applying 6-inch Remy Hair Extension
1. Make a clean and straight horizontal part one inch above the nape of the neck (if you want to wear a ponytail place it 2 inches up from the nape. Bundle and secure loose hair at the top of your head with a clip.
2. Place the 3 piece clip along the hair line and attach the centre clip.
3. Extend the weft piece on either side the head and secure the remaining two clips, one on the left and one on the right.
Step Two: Applying the second 6-inch Remy Hair Extension
1. Remove your hair from the clip and create yet another horizontal part slightly above the first weft.
2. Clip the excess hair out of the way at the top of your head. Place the 6 inch weft in the centre and secure.
3. Extend the weft both left and right towards your ears and secure the remaining clips on either side.
Step Three: Applying the 8-inch Remy Hair Extension
1. Remove your hair from the clip and create yet another horizontal part slightly above the second weft.
2. Clip the excess hair out of the way at the top of your head. Place the 7 inch weft in the centre and secure.
3. Extend the weft piece left and right towards your ears and secure the remaining clips on either side.
Step Four: Applying the second 8-inch Remy Hair Extension
1.Remove your hair from the clip at the top of your head and create yet another horizontal part slightly above the third weft.
2. Clip the excess hair out of the way at the top of your head. Place the 9 inch weft in the centre and secure.
3. Extend the weft piece both left and right towards your ears and secure the remaining clips on either side.
1. The remaining 2 inch remy pieces are used on the side of your head to add more fullness and body and to better frame your face.
2. Secure excess hair above as done with previous wefts and secure in the desired location.
3. Style hair as desired.
OK, you’ve got them on. Now the next biggest feat, walking around and knowing that’s not your “real” hair. Admittedly, I was a little embarrassed and ashamed while wearing the extensions because… I’m wearing a weave. But you know what, to hell with it.
Weave me alone.
Next time someone asks if that’s your “real” hair, you should fire back with this, “Yes, it is my hair. I have the receipt to prove it.”
Because of the negative stigma of hair extensions/hair weaves, and the whole I-woke-up-like-this, no filter phenomenon, I’ve found myself a little ashamed whenever I wore my extensions. I would worry, what if someone feels one of the hair clips when they hug me? What if I ~ever/someday/hopefully~ date a guy, and they find out my hair isn’t real? Will they label me as fake?
But then I quickly realized an important lesson about my self-image and the concept of beauty that I should have known all along… WHO. CARES. If we have discovered what it takes for us to wake up in the morning and feel beautiful, that’s amazing. Who cares what amount of time or energy it takes to get to the only validation that matters, not validation from others, but the validation we find in ourselves.
Yes, I contour the shit out of my face. Yes, these hair extensions make me feel like a long-lost Kardashian. Yes, I feel and I know I look beautiful. To have that validation in our lives? Girl, that is gold.
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