He should want you.
Not in the way of, “I want you to come over and watch Netflix.” Not the guy who conveniently only wants to hang out with you at night. Not the guy that only wants you when he’s feeling oh-so-lonely. God forbid someone sleeps alone at night.
He should want you.
Not in the way of, “I like you, but I don’t want to be tied down right now.” Not the guy that makes you work around his schedule and convenience. Not the guy who gets to know you as fast as running a sprint, only to soon be running just as quickly in the other direction. He should want you to the end of the finish line of a marathon.
He should want you, not in the way of wanting to figure out whatever it will take to get you undressed or whatever motives he desires. He should want you to be exposed in the way of showing you off, wanting everyone to know who you are. He should want you because he is simply proud of someone like you.
I will admit, I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: I’m scared of anything more than myself. I’m scared of someone entering my life, and knowing very well what my life is and what it entails: the good, the bad, my dreams and my darkest fears. I’m scared of someone having me, all of me, and then later changing their mind.
Yet in spite of all that, I still want to be wanted. Who wouldn’t?
And the thing is, he either wants you or he doesn’t. It really is that simple.
If a guy truly wants you, he should want you beyond any and all worries and insecurities. He should want you in the morning, noon and night. He shouldn’t be scared about it, because he should want you that bad. And he most definitely should not be ashamed about it.
I feel like this is coming off a bit selfish, but I really think that if there is even the slightest doubt that someone isn’t fitting the description of this article, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he clearly just doesn’t want you—at least not enough. Maybe that’s harsh, but, to be blunt, it is what it is.
As someone who is constantly trying to find the fine line between the benefit of the doubt in relationships versus the relationships that cross that line and walk all over it, what I’ve come to realize is that this gray area that we’ve made relationships to be is actually more crystal clear and more black-and-white than what we’re making it.
We should be wanted for more than a Netflix movie night and wanted for more than just someone to sleep beside. We should be wanted for more than what’s underneath our clothes. We should be wanted enough to be worth committing to, rather than calling it “tied down.”
A guy either wants you or he doesn’t. And although we don’t get everything we want in life, here’s one thing that’s greater than that 50/50 chance: We should be wanted the way we deserve to be.
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